ARE YOU AN ATTENTION WHORE?

attention whore

Label given to any person who craves attention to such an extent that they will do anything to receive it. The type of attention (negative or positive) does not matter.

Let’s Talk!

ARE YOU AN ATTENTION WHORE?

1. Do you need a social media platform to live on with a lot of friends to pamper you and stroke your ego?

2. Do you like to be the center of the attention even if your attention is negative?

3. Do you like to talk because what you say sounds good to you, even if it contradicts something you’ve said before?

4. Do you say or do things just to get a reaction out of people?

If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you, my love, are an attention whore, and as an attention whore, you are a dangerous person.

How you ask? Let me tell you.

Most attention whores are missing something in their lives that causes them to crave attention. Their issues span back to childhood in most cases. They have experienced one of three things, 1. They were raised to believe they were better than or, 2. They had parents who neglected, abandoned, abused and or mistreated them. They never got the love they may have so desired or, 3. They have built for themselves a reputation and they need attention to feel like somebody.

Lets visit these aspects:

SOCIAL MEDIA

Your average attention whore uses social media platforms to make themselves visible to the public eye. They make posts and post pictures of themselves so that people will see what they are doing, what they are going through, etc. They always have something to say but normally it is unnecessary babbling that only makes them look bad and confirms their need for attention. They set up situations that they can manipulate so they can play the victim. Then they use that situation to elaborate how good of a person they are and how everybody else is so wrong and bad to them. They get a kick out of stating how the only people they have in this world is themselves despite the people who have sacrificed, supported, and loved them unconditionally. They want their audience to see a person who is truly genuine while everyone else is inconsiderate, mean, unsupportive, etc.

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A person who is constantly looking for attention that he/she can never get in real life. It’s also possible that this person has a really crappy life and proceeds to hide it

LIES

Attention whores again, do not care about how they get attention, just as long as they are getting it. So for the most part, because you can do anything you want, be anything you want, be anywhere you want on Social Media, they lie. Facebook has a “check-in” option and most of them check into exotic, expensive places from the comfort of their living room sofa. This is also just to get a reaction. They want people to speak on how it must be nice to be able to travel, and how much they deserve the better things in life. This type of attention is unrealistic to their lives. They lie about relationships, money, family, etc. However, in trying to create a lifestyle for appearances only, their real lives are lonely and depressed. They think they are hiding this from their audience, but at a certain point, people realize what is going on, and know that you are nothing like you portray to be and that all of your stories are just for a reaction. You can’t POSSIBLY be this needy, so you HAVE to have a satirical page or personality because if you are not trying to get a laugh, … you need help.

The attention whore will also go to great lengths and financial steps to be something they are not. They will spend money on education just to be able to look down at the next person in judgement. They spend recklessly only to say that they did so much for someone else and now they are unable to sustain themselves. These people tend lie about education, career, family, reputation, and their past. They talk a good talk game only because it sounds good, but they believe none of what they say. Its a tactic to sound intelligent, genuine and often remorseful – for which they NEVER are. The attention whore likes to play the victim – ALL THE TIME!!!!

Most attention whores are miserable and the old saying is true “misery lives company”. When they are hurting, they are going to make those around them hurt as well. They use the people around them who love them as punching bags. They say hurtful things and will accuse you of doing them wrong. They never own up to their faults. If you do get an apology from them, it’s only because they are having a moment, or because it sounds good, but never as a remorseful acknowledgement of something they have done. In other words – they see no fault in themselves.

To this person, please understand, the only people that believe your lies are those that don’t know you. The only people who pamper you are those who don’t know you. The only people who feel sorry for you, are those who don’t know what you’ve done and they don’t know you. You are a miserable soul because you live in your own head. You have this picture of what you should be, could be or would have been if…… You live in the “If” world and that is a very unstable place. The love and attention you so desire will come to you once you find a peace and contentment with YOURSELF! the real YOU! Not this fictitious persona you have created. Also, you will never be at peace until you take a long look at yourself and realize that at this point in your life, its not everyone else that’s the problem, its YOU! You don’t know who you are, therefore you don’t know how to be. You push away those that truly love you for who you are, the good, the bad and the ugly for those who only want to stay in your business. Those that will promise you their loyalty, but they are promising you this behind a computer screen. When you really need them, they will not be there. BUT, IN YOUR EYES… All you got is you, nobody understands you. Everybody mistreats you and no one loves you. STOP IT, CUT IT OUT!!!!

This is simple, pathetic, immature and unstable thinking and behaviour. We all have our moment at the pity party, but we snap out of it. You live in it and it is completely unnecessary. You are your own problem. You are your worst enemy. You are the reason you can’t feel love, give love or even love yourself. You don’t like who you are and instead of making the changes necessary to better yourself, you continue to live a lie. Stop wishing you are something different, and make your wishes come true. You will never experience true happiness until you get rid of your depression. Get rid of this façade and live and love who you truly are! You have missed so many blessings in your life because you refuse to be yourself. You refuse to allow people to love you. You let people in so far and because you are so afraid of being hurt, you push people away, then you lie and swear they did something to you. CUT IT OUT! If you want to continue to live this way, then find a bubble and isolate yourself. The people who love you don’t deserve to be your punching bag. We don’t deserve to be hurt because you can’t find a self love or self worth.

You need help. But don’t go to the psychiatrist if you aren’t willing to accept their observation and advice. Don’t take your alter ego into that room. Drop the charade and expose yourself to an unbiased truth. Be receptive to the suggestions and learn who YOU are. Its a type of rehab. Learn to be real. You scream it enough, how real you are. But you are as fake as those acrylic fingernails.

I hope it gets better for you. Don’t spend the rest of your life like this. There are brighter days. You just have to want them.

Ms. Jae